Having a structured way to clarify your values and set meaningful goals can make a huge difference when you feel stuck, weighed down, or unsure where to start.
I had absolutely no dreams or objectives when my psychological state was at its worst. As a result, I knew I had to figure out what purpose(s) I wished to pursue in life to feel better again.
Due to these personal struggles, I came up with a step-by-step template/routine you can use to figure out what’s important to you and where to focus your goals:
- Step 1: Clarify your core values
Ask yourself:
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- What do I care about most in life?
 
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- When have I felt most alive, proud, or fulfilled?
 
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- Which qualities do I admire in others?
 
Write down 5–7 values that resonate with you. (For example: health, learning, family, creativity, kindness, freedom, stability.)
For me, it was being in good physical shape and reconnecting with my best friends and family.
- Step 2: Identify your life areas

Break life down into key domains.
You can use a “life wheel” structure:
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- Health and well-being (physical + mental).
 
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- Relationships (family, friends, partner, community).
 
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- Work and career (job, purpose, skills).
 
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- Personal growth (learning, hobbies, spirituality).
 
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- Lifestyle (finances, environment, daily habits).
 
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- Contribution (helping others, giving back).
 
Rate each area on a scale of 1–10 (satisfaction right now).
-  Step 3: Spot the gaps
  
 
Look at your ratings and ask yourself:
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- Which areas matter most to me?
 
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- Where am I least satisfied?
 
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- Which gaps feel urgent, and which can wait?
 
Pick 1–2 areas to focus on first. (Don’t do everything at once since that’s overwhelming.)
I know how exhausting depression can be, and that’s why I’m telling you not to spread yourself too thin. You’re better off starting too easy than risking being swamped.
- Step 4: Define meaningful goals
For each area you chose:
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- Vision → “What would this look like if it were ideal for me?”
- Motivation → “Why does this matter to me?”
- Actionable Goal → Write it in a SMART format (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, Time-bound).
 
Example:
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- Area: Health and well-being
 
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- Vision: “I want to feel more energetic and less sluggish.”
 
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- Motivation: “Better energy helps my mood and confidence.”
 
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- SMART goal: “I will exercise 3x per week for at least 30 minutes for the next 2 months.”
 
Making goals “SMART” aids in making your objectives concrete and easy to track progress.
- Step 5: Break goals into habits

Big goals need tiny steps to succeed.
Ask yourself:
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- What’s the smallest possible action I can take?
 
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- How can I make it realistic with my current energy and mood?
 
For instance: Instead of “meditate 20 minutes daily,” start with “2 minutes of breathing before going to bed.”
I started going for a short 5-minute walk in nature and lifting weights for just 5–10 minutes.
- Step 6: Review and adjust
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- Check in weekly: What worked? What didn’t? (Why didn’t it work?)
 
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- Celebrate small wins (Consistency matters much more than intensity).
 
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- Adjust goals if they feel too heavy or misaligned.
 
Quick template (You can copy and fill it out)

- My top values: __________
- My life area ratings (1–10): __________
- The 1–2 areas I want to focus on now: __________
- Vision for this area: _________
- Why it matters (motivation): __________
- SMART goal: __________
- First tiny step I can take: __________
- Check-in date: _________
Conclusion
This framework is effective because it combines values-based living (important in acceptance and commitment therapy, or ACT) with practical goal setting.
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